One of the most common Filipino traits that other countries recognize is our close-knit relationships with our families, and it could bring both the best and the worst for all of us.
Unlike other typical families from western countries, we treat our families here with utmost priority and respect. I’m not saying that the families from those communities don’t have respect and don’t priorities their loved ones, but all I’m saying is that we do our best to ensure that that they feel they’re our world, and we’ll do our best to secure them no matter what.
When it comes to bringing the best of us, I believe that because we’re so close with our families, it makes us want to do everything in our power to make them happy. We strive harder in everything that we do so that we can provide them better. For example, in our day-to-day work activities, one of our motivations to aim for that promotion is to earn extra income to bring more food to our tables. Our families take pride in us, especially when our efforts are recognized because they believe that our achievements are also theirs. The list could go on and on.
On the other hand, this thing is also a double-edged sword. In a lot of families today, utang na loob is still prevalent. Please note that I’m not saying that it’s bad, but this usually leads to unhappiness, especially for those indebted to someone. Many people choose the course that they don’t love because it’s what their parents want. Someone would also want to move out of their homes and start their own families but can’t because they’re still paying off all the “good deeds” that their parents have done for them in this world. And like the positive side of things, this list could go on and on.
How about you? What are the best and worst things that your family made you do? Share your thoughts in the comments.